I love her. Life is good. Should I leave?
May 3, 2008 8:13 AM Subscribe
RelationshipFilter - I love her. Life is good. Should I leave?
posted by anonymous to human relations (24 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I am an early-20s man, and I've been dating and living with my first ever girlfriend, love, and lover (she is a few years older than me) for 2 years or so now.
The relationship is pretty good. I love her. She really loves me.
But there is a nag in the back of my mind that says I could do better, and I'm just staying here cause of comfort.
We fight at a low-squabbling level every day or so, I want more sex than her, and there is a mismatch of both intelligence and ambition between us.
The thought of leaving her makes my stomach lurch. I don't want to be alone. Being with her is warm. She makes me smile, and from time to time, when I look at her, my whole being just wants to protect and support her.
In addition, she talks about wanting to be with me for a long time, and has said months ago that she doesn't think she can do better than me, and will give up on love if it doesnt work. I care deeply about her, and don't want to hurt her.
A few more ingredients to the mix: We just made a long distance move together. I have a complex about not experiencing life during my teenage years, and am deathly afraid of missing out on life experiences. (This all probably started when friends of mind talked about how they spent their teens/young-twenties having wild crazy random-sex). She is older and more interested in settling down/long term thinking than I
So MetaFilter: Thoughts on what to do with myself?
Stay with her and test to see if it fizzles or really bonds? Break now and get clean starts? Supress my disturbing mind and give this my best go?