Why did you wink at me?
March 22, 2008 8:03 PM Subscribe
I am a woman, and I've been winked at by a few men in my day but recently after being introduced to another woman, she defintely winked at me. This has never happened to me before so I'm wondering if this is something that other women do, and if so, why?
posted by tamitang to Human Relations (25 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
According to the body language research a wink usually means "we share a secret" so what secret did we share?
A long-time male aquaintance introduced a much younger woman to me at a social event and a few moments after we were introduced, I happened to look back and she winked at me. It was very disconcerting as this has never happened to me before. It seemed to come across as condenscending.
Although in the context of the event, it was entirely appropriate for my friend to introduce me to the young lady, it did later turn out that he was having an affair with her. I didn't know anything about this at the time and his wife was present at the event. So was the wink the young woman's subconscious way of letting me know? Or am I overthinking this and lots of women wink at other obviously straight women shortly after being introduced?