March 2, 2008 9:32 AM Subscribe
Ladyparts, sexpain filter: I am a female with vulvar vestibulitis. Help me figure out how to have happy sex with my boyfriend. This is getting ridiculous. (NSFW, duh)
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (10 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I adore my boyfriend. He's sexy and fun. I want to bang his brains out, but I can't, because every time he tries to enter, I get this overwhelming (cross your legs, ladies) sensation of tearing, ripping, and burning that doesn't go away until he's out (and even then I'm a little tender for a day or two).
This happens with everything, not just him. I usually have to use pediatric-sized equipment and get an ultrasound during my GYN exams because the doc can't get in far enough to examine me normally.
He's not overly large, I'm not overly small. The vulvar vestibulitis diagnosis was by default after ruling out other irritants, diseases, psychological hangups, etc. Standard medical advice has been 1. more foreplay, and 2. more lube. Neither help much.
I'm more than happy to perfect my blowjob technique, but a little face-to-face sex every now and then would be nice. Also, it would be nice if he could approach me without this overwhelming fear of hurting me.
After reading on the internets (I know, smart), I'm wondering if a pre-sex NSAID and/or muscle relaxant would help. Are some positions better than others? Any other tricks?
I understand this is actually one of those common but unspoken problems among women, so I'm hoping the hivemind can help.