How can I repair my past mistakes without losing my close friends in the process?
February 13, 2008 7:42 AM Subscribe
I've been lying about parts of my life to my close friends. I want to come clean, but I'm scared.
posted by stedman15 to human relations (44 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
For the last 7 years or so, I've been lying about my level of sexual experience to my friends. I've led people to think I'm a player, but I'm actually still a virgin. I've also told others that I was once engaged, when in fact, I never was.
At the time I began telling people these lies, I was insecure and fat. I thought it would make me look cool to my buddies and friends in law school. I've since gotten over some of this insecurity, and have decided that people should accept me for who I am.
I'm afraid of coming clean to my friends, though. I don't want to lose them. I figure I only hurt myself with these fabrications, but it would really hurt if one of my close friends who told me they no longer wanted to talk to me. I already was forced to come clean with one friend when an ex-girlfriend of mine told her.
Is there any way to come clean while minimizing the damage to my existing friendships?