Romancing The Wife
November 25, 2007 1:41 PM Subscribe
RomanceFilter: Since getting married and having a kid, the dynamic of the relationship between my wife and I has changed in many ways. One thing she cites is my lack of 'romance' in general... Help me figure out ways I can be romantic in small ways day to day.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (37 answers total) 34 users marked this as a favorite
You can never overestimate how much becoming a parent will change things - but one very specific one for myself and my wife is our general intimacy. She is often very tired after all day at home with a baby (and now toddler) - this puts stress on our relationship, and has almost obliterated our formerly 5-times-a-week sex life (more like 5 times a year now).
I am still very much in love with her, and try to express it whenever and however I can, but money is tight, and it's hard to just go out an do anything.
One thing she says she wants from me is 'romance' - not big all out special events, but just day to day romance, and I really want to be obliging, but I completely lack inspiration. She says I used to be romantic, but I can't really think what I did 'back then' that was so different. My best ideas are to bring home little gifts I know she'll enjoy from time to time, but that's only going to work so many times - what else can I do, one a daily or few-times-weekly basis to show my romantic feelings. Things that I can easily arrange while at work, that cost little or nothing, and that are varied enough that they won't start to seem systematic or repetitive.
I'm looking for as many little ideas and experiences as you can offer. Obviously what is romantic to others won't necessarily apply to us, but I need inspiration!