How to explain self-inflicted scars to co-workers?
September 29, 2007 6:59 PM Subscribe
What can I say when people ask about my self-inflicted scars?
posted by lxs to Human Relations (65 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I have some scars from razors and burning on my arms from a period about six years ago when I was very depressed and my life was very screwed up. I've made a lot of positive improvements in my life since then and self-injury is no longer an issue. I've tried Mederma and Vitamin E oil on the scars, but it doesn't seem like they're going anywhere anytime soon.
No one says anything about them, but a few days ago at an after-work social function, a tipsy co-worker asked where I got them, and if they came from cutting myself. I was taken so off guard--especially since I had always assumed that since no one had said anything, they weren't as visible as they must actually be--that I just said yes.
I've done research on what can be said of such scars, and many people suggest being honest about the self-injury. I am really embarrassed of my past problems and am not comfortable at all doing this. The nature of the scars, however, pretty much excludes any other explanation.
Any suggestions? I am in the process of attempting to work my way up in a competitive professional environment and I am really anxious about these stupid scars.