My boyfriend (we're this couple
, and he has graciously agreed to put that particular discussion on hold until he lives in this country again) is coming home on leave from an unpopular war, soonishly.
I live in LA. He will be flying in and spending a bit over a week with me before flying off to visit his parents and then going back.
I'm kind of freaking out about it. I like him very much, and I'm really excited to see him, but I also haven't seen him in quite a while now, and I feel weirdly shy.
Also, I don't know what the hell I should prepare for. Should I stock up on DVDs? What kinds? Would he want to catch up on Heroes
? It's a really long trip: will he want to sleep as soon as he gets here? Should I not plan anything (even dinner) the first day? Should I buy a lot of meat and charcoal in case he wants to be manly and grill?
I'm trying not to freak out at him, of course, and he's said very polite things about how he'll just be happy to sleep in a nice bed with nice sheets, not get shot at, etc. But I'm sure there must be some
things soldiers home on leave like to do. (Besides the obvious ones.)
Basically: I want to be supportive. I want him to leave my house relaxed and happy. I want him to go back feeling like he had a good leave, and like he's got his head right to face the next few months until he gets to come home.
Also, I want to learn the magic trick of not crying when I say goodbye, whatever that is.
I may be seriously overthinking this. Should I just buy a lot of milk and cereal and plan on not leaving the house for five days?
(Ack, see, now I'm overthinking that, becoming convinced that I'll be all over him and he'll go "You know... a man comes home from a war... he doesn't want to be pawed all the damn time like he's a piece of meat...")
SEE? I'm a wreck. Help!
PS: I hope I don't need to say this, but please don't be a jerk about the unpopular war part. I'm not excited he's there, either.
PS part II: The discussion being on hold doesn't mean that we don't like each other or anything. It's complicated. Someone has to give up a career for it to work out, so we're still figuring out the puzzle.