Not sure how to tell my dad I want to join the army.
September 18, 2013 9:01 PM Subscribe
My dad paid for 200k worth of schooling for me, i got a BA in Economics from a good school, went on to do some independent film production, quit my job with my boss 6 months ago, finally saw the last film I helped produce premiere at TIFF, and I've been re-evaluating what I want to do with my life. (Currently 24.5 years old.)
I want to join the Army and become a Ranger, like my uncle (who my dad despises) but I don't know how to go about telling my dad.
posted by sawyerrrr to human relations (48 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I think his reaction would be shock, skepticism, a little pride, but I think more than anything I would be disappointing him... He thinks very highly of me as an intellectual and I think he would see this as a foolish use of my mind and ability, and I'm not sure it is profitable enough for him to affirmatively say: good job son!
This is leading me to doubt whether this is actually a path I want to pursue if my dad will not support it, the decision to join the Army (at least as an Infantry soldier) is daunting enough, let alone with the prospect that my dad might live and die thinking that he wasted money and that I could have been so much more.
While I've been training hardcore, my dad has been urging me to look for a job, he really wants me to be a productive member of society and have a family, and rightfully so a job is a precursor to these things, but I haven't told him yet what I've really been up to.
I feel like that guy in Cool Runnings, except that I come from wealth. And that's the thing, is that my dad never expected me to pay him back or to be a millionaire. Coming from wealth can be pretty debilitating to the growth of an individual when everything is provided for and taken care of, down to a maid cleaning your room and making your bed everyday etc.
College was necessary for me to even become an adult in this regard, so the money was not necessarily wasted and I think he understands that. The disciplined, honorable, independent person I am today is only a result of those years...
But I don't know, this is a tight spot for me. I'm not really used to being this unsure about so much in my life.
Any advice is greatly appreciated...