How to help a friend whose parent was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer?
July 12, 2007 6:13 AM Subscribe
My friend's mother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer yesterday. I'm feeling helpless and frustrated--what can I do besides send flowers? Anything?
posted by leesh to human relations (23 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I know there have been similar questions in the past, but I'm just feeling really adrift here and could use the hive mind's help. My friend is currently out of town, with her family. Her mother was diagnosed just yesterday and they're waiting for further results to see if she's a good candidate for chemo. If not, she has about a year left.
Obviously my friend is devastated, and by proxy so are all of the rest of us who care about her. We've sent flowers and are having everyone we know pray for her mom, but is there something else we can do? Is feeling helpless just par for the course?
Several of us (including me) have parents who have survived cancer, but none had a prognosis this grim. Have any of you been in this situation? What sort of support would you have liked to get from your friends, if any besides the usual "I'm here if and when you need me"? Are there helpful books (fiction or non-fiction)? Should we just back off?
We just want her to know we love her and are here for her.