September 4, 2012 1:57 PM Subscribe
I am the only one who knows that my friend is suicidal. What do I do?
posted by whalebreath to Human Relations (35 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I'm basically his only friend, and I don't even live in the same province as him. We talk on gchat and through text. He's a great guy and we have bonded over similar experiences with depression, procrastination, etc., and he's been there to talk to during my hard and stressed out times.
But now he's severely depressed and I'm starting to feel overwhelmed with the looming possibility of him killing himself and me being the only one who knew how bad it was. I'm also out of ideas as to how to help him, and find myself growing frustrated and impatient with him when what he needs most right now is compassion and support. He's upset that I keep responding to his despair with 'it's your depression making you feel this way' but it is! He is convinced that his life is hopeless and worthless and that he will always be poor and lonely and depressed. Maybe what he needs is for me to just listen, but his thoughts are so dark and dismal that it's hard for me to just accept what he is saying without urging him to get help. He sometimes feels that seeking help is futile, but I feel like I can't be his sole support system anymore, I'm getting burnt out and terrified and I don't know what to do. I don't want to just cut him out, he's a good friend and he needs a good friend in return. I just can't take the barrage of suicidal ideation anymore. What can I do?