Urban vs. Suburban Living: Help us settle a domestic dispute!
May 9, 2007 10:58 AM Subscribe
Help us settle a domestic dispute! Urban vs. suburban living. My wife and i can't seem to find a suitable compromise and it has become a significant problem in our relationship. Need help finding a middle ground, or other solution, in Los Angeles or other CA city.
posted by krudiger to Home & Garden (31 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My wife and I currently live in Los Angeles. And, while we're only 6 miles from downtown, it is pretty suburban, difficult to walk to things, not particularly convenient to transit etc. We live in a house built in 1941 which is a pretty consistent source of projects and repairs - none of which I enjoy (in fact they stress me out to an admittedly irrational extent).
My ideal would be to move to a condo/loft in or close to downtown that is much lower on the maintenance and allows easy access to transit and walkable amenities. The thing is that my wife loves her garden, loves being outside, grew up in a rural area, and gets sort of freaked out at the thought of being confined in a condo/loft.
We've talked about living in a condo/loft for a few years before having kids and then moving back to a house when the kiddies need an outside place to run around, but that has been a nonstarter with the wife so far.
This has become a surprisingly big problem. So, I come to you! We would both really appreciate 1. any general thoughts on bridging this gap 2. any specific suggestions on middle grounds, paths to compromise. Condos with garden plots near downtown LA or in other California cities? (Prefer LA at this point but open to moving if needed) Other ideas? 3. any experience living with a baby in a loft/condo? is that part crazy?
Even as I'm writing this, it seems a bit silly to me (on my part as much or more than hers), but, for whatever reason, it has become this semi-intractable problem in our relationship, so any help from the unbiased, smart people of Metafilter would be much appreciated.