Help me stop being so paranoid
October 22, 2006 10:29 AM Subscribe
Help me stop being so paranoid and/or self conscious.
posted by trampesque to human relations (21 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I tend to dwell far too much on things, and get paranoid about them. As a perfect example, I tend to worry about conversations I've had with people when I'm a little tipsy (or sometimes drunk) with, say, people I work with.
I do suffer from anxiety anyway, so that really doesn't help, but I would love to have some kind of mental checklist or mechanism to put into use to prevent me caring so much about what I've said to people. Because I don't actually offend or hurt anyone - more often than not I just make ME look either quite stupid, flirtatious or bitchy, and not even to a great extent. [And even as I'm writing this I'm wondering whether that's completely wrong and everyone thinks I'm fine - because I'm often told I'm very well liked by everyone, and have a lot, lot, lot of great friends, so theoretically, I could be just being paranoid, right NOW] I think it's just that I say things sometimes which other people won't even remember, but I dwell, and dwell, on, "God, I wish I hadn't said that." How can I just GET OVER IT without just doing what most people would tell me and "don't think about it" (which is very unhelpful)
Also I'm (honestly) not saying I drink a lot, it's just that I work in a company of hardcore drinkers (no, seriously) and socialising in pubs/bars happens a lot with them, so it's likely that this kind of situation will continue to arise. And this isn't even JUST about drinking situations - I get like this all the time. So, er, please don't say "don't drink" or "don't talk to anyone". That's not really practical or helpful. =/