Help me find this thing I saw on social media about division of labor
June 5, 2024 5:03 PM Subscribe
On Insta, I saw a post that maybe originated there or TikTok or elsewhere: it was an example of the way household chores are handled, and started on a tight circle and then zoomed out as a man explained it. I want to find it again and failed to save it; details inside.
So first the guy explained a circle divided into four parts representing household chores, where one partner (#1) handled 1/4, and the other partner (#2) handled 3/4. So that seems wildly unfair, with #2 doing a disproportionate amount of work. Stuff in this circle is akin to grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, etc.
Then the guy zoomed out to show a larger circle around the first, all handled by #1: all of the project planning and tracking and knowing which of the chores in the inside circle need to be handled, making a grocery list, when bills are due, etc.
The guy then zoomed out to a third circle encompassing the first two -- an additional array of pre-planning, tracking, responsibilities, etc., all handled by person #1.
So the lesson is that we can't just look at who is performing tasks in a household, we have to look at all the big-picture work that is simultaneously going on. And yes, I think generally speaking this is a parable about how women do a huge amount of unnoticed or unlauded prep work, tracking, etc., while men want to be applauded for taking out the trash or whatever.
Can you help me find this post and/or anything similar?
So first the guy explained a circle divided into four parts representing household chores, where one partner (#1) handled 1/4, and the other partner (#2) handled 3/4. So that seems wildly unfair, with #2 doing a disproportionate amount of work. Stuff in this circle is akin to grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, etc.
Then the guy zoomed out to show a larger circle around the first, all handled by #1: all of the project planning and tracking and knowing which of the chores in the inside circle need to be handled, making a grocery list, when bills are due, etc.
The guy then zoomed out to a third circle encompassing the first two -- an additional array of pre-planning, tracking, responsibilities, etc., all handled by person #1.
So the lesson is that we can't just look at who is performing tasks in a household, we have to look at all the big-picture work that is simultaneously going on. And yes, I think generally speaking this is a parable about how women do a huge amount of unnoticed or unlauded prep work, tracking, etc., while men want to be applauded for taking out the trash or whatever.
Can you help me find this post and/or anything similar?
Best answer: Oops that gets cut off at the end but maybe a search on that guy's account on TikTok or Instagram will find the full one.
posted by dawkins_7 at 5:13 PM on June 5 [1 favorite]
posted by dawkins_7 at 5:13 PM on June 5 [1 favorite]
Best answer: The YouTube does cut off at 0:59; the missing 30 seconds covers the third circle you're talking about. Full video (1:28) is on his TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@zachthinkshare/video/7372741701657513259
posted by Pandora Kouti at 6:51 PM on June 5 [11 favorites]
posted by Pandora Kouti at 6:51 PM on June 5 [11 favorites]
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