April 14, 2006 11:44 AM Subscribe
How do I desensitize myself to my roomate's bad moods/general
posted by anonymous78 to Human Relations (13 answers total)
I live with a very old friend who is unfortunately, deeply unhappy. She is on Prozac but I do not sense this has really helped her. I have tried to be supportive and feel that I am consistently friendly with her but she, in turn, is regularly unfriendly with me and generally unpleasant to live with. I get short, clipped responses to my attempts at conversation as well passive-aggreessive comments when we do talk. What is upsetting is that she does not treat any of our mutual friends this way, nor does she treat our new, very friendly roomate this way. It is clearly me who is bearing the brunt of her unhappiness.
My rational side recognizes this has nothing to do with me, but being a sensitive soul, I am still rattled by it. I feel anxious at home, especially when she is around, and admit that her erratic moods are beginning to affect the way I interact with her. I am at the point where I recognize I cannot help her and need to help myself instead. I cannot move, nor do I want to. Rather, I want to find a way to "reclaim" the apartment so that I feel comfortable living there. In addition, I would like to stop worrying about whether I have upset her and/or feeling agitated when she is home and chatting away with our other roomate. I am looking for techniques and tips to help me grow a tougher, thicker skin in dealing with her. How can I learn to be less affected by her attitude towards me? Reading material would also be appreciated.