How can socially anxious me be a better partner to totally awesome her?
May 27, 2006 10:54 PM Subscribe
I could use some insight/support from those who suffer from generalized or social anxiety disorder and their loved ones. Despite being medicated to the hilt - which works only to the extent that it deflects and masks total public meltdowns - I am increasingly unable to tolerate social functions or recover from "weird" encounters or awkward conversations. The problem is that I am feeling tremendous amounts of guilt for essentially ditching my awesome, beautiful, incredibly supportive wife by leaving her to fend for herself at parties or any kind of large gatherings.
posted by anonymous to human relations (18 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
It is a testament to her awesomeness that she understands and accepts my plight. She's not the problem; I am. My question to you all is what I can do, within the limits of my emotional ability, to be a more supportive partner to her. She wants me around; that's such a simple and normal request, and I am racked with guilt for not being able to deliver.
(As I type this, I have just raced home from our college reunion as heat, dehydration, nerves and exhaustion took its toll on me. She's still there; more stuff to go to, more events planned. I barely lasted five hours out of a three-day reunion party. I'm alone, devastated, and feel that I have failed her and our friends. Everyone asks about me. "Why wasn't anonymous able to come?" I got home a little while ago, turned off the lights, logged onto Metafilter, and find myself calm for the first time all day.)