Marijuana and children
March 3, 2006 10:06 PM Subscribe
I'm an unrepentant pothead, as are my friends and family. We've been at it for decades; generations, even... it's not changing anytime soon. This is not going over well with my children who are: nine, eleven and thirteen.
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At the risk of protesting too much, I want to make clear that we are all solidly middle class, not prone to arrest and pretty decent folks. We just smoke pot and have, until now, treated it like alcohol. I would no more do bong hits while watching "That's So Raven" than I would do shots of Jack at breakfast. Then again, I don't freak out if they spot a bowl on the counter or catch a waft of smoke blowing in from the deck on a warm evening.
I've gone with the, "Yeah, we use marijuana. Think of it like the wine in the fridge... talk to me when you can can brush your teeth without being reminded and get accepted to a good school." Double standard? You bet. They're kids and I do all sorts of stuff they aren't allowed to.
Unfortunately this seems to have been the wrong approach. After years of DARE, public service announcements and overzealous teachers, my youngest two have decided we are all drug addicts. They seem unable or unwilling to make the distinction between smoking a joint and selling your body for a rock in that van down by the river. It feels like a lie to suddenly announce my reformation and newfound belief that weed is the root all evil, but I'm sick and tired of being nagged. My kids are good Unitarians and, for the most part, incredibly tolerant (they are biracial and have two mothers, we're a little unconventional in several ways) about everything except weed. I need a way to back away from my former (and, admittedly, over-vocal) marijuana advocacy without looking like a total jerk -- it would be nice if I could continue to smoke but that isn't a requirement.
[Note to admins: I know this is borderline illegal, but in this context I hope it is acceptable. I understand if you feel otherwise.]