How to get my mom to a doctor?
February 2, 2006 2:10 PM Subscribe
How can I get my mom to go to the doctor? Her eyesight from her Type II diabetes is getting considerably worse, but she won't tell the doctor because she's afraid they'll take away her drivers licence again.
posted by cgg to health & fitness (18 answers total)
My mom was diagnosed with Type II diabetes several years ago, but pretty much refuses to do anything about it. She barely takes care of her heart condition as it is. But now her eyesight is getting progressively worse, and I'm getting progressively worried.
She refuses to tell her doctor about the problem because she's afraid they will take away her drivers licence again. (It was taken away once before because due to medical reasons, but quickly reinstated once the problems were under control).
My mom's independence is very, very important to her. She's under the impression her quality of life will be reduced to nothing if she cannot drive. My parents live in an area where public transit is essentially non-existent, and moving is not an option. She knows in her current condition she probably shouldn't be driving, but does anyway. Granted, she only drives during the day now, and only in areas she's very familiar, because she admittedly can't read the road signs. I've gotten quite mad at her, asking how she'd feel if she killed someone else as a result, etc. She knows I'm right, but she just won't go to the doctor.
I think my dad agrees with me, but he can't get her to go to the doc either. And he gets annoyed when I push the issue, because as he says, "You don't have to live with her. I do."
So, my question (sorry for the long-windedness). How do I get her to tell her doctor? Yes, they might take her licence away; I don't know if she'd pass the sight requirements or not. I suspect not, but I don't know for sure. On the other hand, if she talks to the doc, they could help her keep it under control. But she just won't take that risk. I'm really worried about her on the road, as well as potential innocent bystanders.