Poetry about relationships ending
June 7, 2017 8:04 AM   Subscribe

Inspired by the recent thread about wedding readings, and Stephen Dunn's "Each from different heights" can you suggest any non religious poetry about relationships ending?

Links to previous threads also appreciated - I searched and couldn't find any.
posted by limoncello to Human Relations (22 answers total) 30 users marked this as a favorite
 
Neutral Tones by Thomas Hardy
posted by FencingGal at 8:07 AM on June 7, 2017 [1 favorite]


Failing and Flying, by Jack Gilbert
posted by coppermoss at 8:11 AM on June 7, 2017 [5 favorites]


Oh, when I was in love with you, by A. E. Housman
posted by ubiquity at 8:18 AM on June 7, 2017 [1 favorite]


Since the Majority of Me, Philip Larkin
posted by holborne at 8:19 AM on June 7, 2017 [2 favorites]


Home Burial, Robert Frost
posted by Jane the Brown at 8:44 AM on June 7, 2017 [4 favorites]


For the other side of the marriage Jack Gilbert describes, I recommend "Asking for Directions" by Linda Gregg. (These two are the king and queen of this genre.)
posted by rabbitbookworm at 8:44 AM on June 7, 2017 [5 favorites]


Since There's No Help, Come Let Us Kiss and Part, Michael Drayton
posted by Jane the Brown at 8:46 AM on June 7, 2017


Oh, and Sharon Olds' "Past Future Imperfect."
posted by rabbitbookworm at 9:01 AM on June 7, 2017 [2 favorites]


Passer Mortuus Est by Edna St. VIncent Millay.
posted by LizardBreath at 10:18 AM on June 7, 2017


The Lovingkindness Survival Kit (archive link; original page is defunct) by Suzette Haden Elgin (RIP) has a piece called "Separation" that might fit. Also the one called "Consolation".
posted by Lexica at 10:44 AM on June 7, 2017 [3 favorites]


The Lost Mistress, Robert Browning.
posted by JanetLand at 11:15 AM on June 7, 2017


Wendy Cope's 'Loss':
The day he moved out was terrible -
That evening she went through hell.
His absence wasn’t a problem
But the corkscrew had gone as well.
posted by Catseye at 11:46 AM on June 7, 2017 [1 favorite]


The Beauty of the Husband, Anne Carson.
posted by redlines at 12:27 PM on June 7, 2017


Joseph Brodsky's "Six Years Later."

Marina Tsvetaeva's very long "Poem of the End." You'll need to get a book to read a full English translation; I recommend Nina Kossman's or David McDuff's, not Elaine Feinstein's (which is actually more of a paraphrase). Here is the Russian in case you can read it.
posted by Perodicticus potto at 1:14 PM on June 7, 2017 [1 favorite]


One of my favorites is "One Art" by Elizabeth Bishop (which might be better known by its first line: "The art of losing isn't hard to master").

Here's a good previous AskMe thread: What are your favorite poems about the end of a relationship? (which includes "One Art" as well as Gilbert's "Failing and Flying" mentioned above).
posted by rangefinder 1.4 at 1:27 PM on June 7, 2017


Washing the Elephant by Barbara Ras
posted by thrungva at 1:45 PM on June 7, 2017 [3 favorites]


After the Last Dynasty by Stanley Kunitz
posted by drlith at 4:55 PM on June 7, 2017


Another previous thread: poetry recommendations for the broken-hearted
posted by bethnull at 9:08 PM on June 7, 2017


"You Haven't Texted Since Saturday" by Michael Robbins.
posted by old_growler at 9:25 PM on June 7, 2017 [1 favorite]


Response by poster: These are perfect, thank you all.
posted by limoncello at 11:48 PM on June 7, 2017


breakup jams! omg i have trained all my life for this question.

(For transparency: most of these are self-links to a poem-a-day blog that two friends and I contribute to.
I'm interpreting the prompt broadly. I know not all of these poems are "about" romantic relationships ending per se, at least on a narrative level; a couple of them might be about death, or grief, or friendship, or life after love, etc.)

Mindy Nettifee - All I Have to Say for Myself
Ted Kooser - The Witness
Mary Oliver - In Blackwater Woods

William Stafford - Purifying the Language of the Tribe
Susan B. A. Somers-Willett - Matter and Void
Robert Hass - Variations on a Passage in Edward Abbey
Marie Howe - What the Living Do

Kay Ryan - Still Start
Ada Limón - The Conditional
Warsan Shire - For Women Who Are 'Difficult' to Love

Brynn Saito - The Palace of Contemplating Departure
Sandra Lim - Aubade

Jane Hirshfield - For What Binds Us
(I'll also second "Washing The Elephant", as thrungva is one of the few real loves-of-my-life. 💑📚)
posted by omnomnOMINOUS at 8:57 AM on June 8, 2017 [1 favorite]


Antilamentation by Dorianne Laux
Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell by Marty McConnell
Nothing by James Fenton

all via the wonderful (MeFi's own? not sure) Captain Awkward, from her recent post of Songs for the Dumped. (Note: these poems are not about being dumped.)

(Thank you for asking this - I had not read any of these three and I thought they were all amazing, so thank you for introducing me to them.)
posted by kristi at 1:42 PM on June 10, 2017


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