Paging Dr. Tinder
March 4, 2017 7:07 AM Subscribe
I'm a single lady doctor. I've been on tinder for a few months, but haven't run into anyone I work with on there because I worked about 20 miles from where I live. Now I'm working in my home town and feel weirded out about patients seeing me on there. I have a distinctive name and look, so it would not be difficult. Is there a way to anonymize tinder more effectively? Should I just delete my profile? Is there another dating app that would suit me better?
I'm assuming a mental health related field would be a bit more tricky then some sort of GP or specialist, but I think people tend to over think their professional reputation. I've run into doctors all the time on Tinder and have been on dates with several of them. I would definitely not go on a date without a picture of with someone with a fake name or fake information as that is a huge red flag. I understand where you're coming from but as someone who has done a lot of Tinder dates, you learn what red flags are and there are way too many choices out there to deal with something sketchy.
Bumble is a tad more female friendly in that you have to message first, but your patients will still see you if that is your concern.
Again, unless you live in a very conservative area, online dating is pretty normal right now.
My only caveat would be that professionals like doctors tend to be hard to date due to schedules and online dating is a very flaky environment where people tend to think you're avoiding them if you cancel twice for some reason. There's been many times where I had actual work related or family related issues and I had to reschedule twice and the other party gave up so be aware that may be a thing if you're on call or you have an abnormal schedule.
Otherwise, I wouldn't worry too much about it and definitely don't make my mistake and take it too seriously in the beginning. I basically go on a "date" (as in coffee/drinks something very casual) with pretty much anyone and treat it as meeting up a friend. It is a numbers game.
posted by geoff. at 12:25 PM on March 4, 2017
Bumble is a tad more female friendly in that you have to message first, but your patients will still see you if that is your concern.
Again, unless you live in a very conservative area, online dating is pretty normal right now.
My only caveat would be that professionals like doctors tend to be hard to date due to schedules and online dating is a very flaky environment where people tend to think you're avoiding them if you cancel twice for some reason. There's been many times where I had actual work related or family related issues and I had to reschedule twice and the other party gave up so be aware that may be a thing if you're on call or you have an abnormal schedule.
Otherwise, I wouldn't worry too much about it and definitely don't make my mistake and take it too seriously in the beginning. I basically go on a "date" (as in coffee/drinks something very casual) with pretty much anyone and treat it as meeting up a friend. It is a numbers game.
posted by geoff. at 12:25 PM on March 4, 2017
OkCupid data says that you don't have to show a face, as long as you give a clear sense of your body type and your pics are interesting.
That was from 7 years ago and I would say that online dating has fundamentally changed from LIST EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF to find someone you're vaguely attractive to. I think this is actually more effective as everyone juices their resume, and in the real world when you're asking someone that's random at a bar or whatever to chat up you're doing it on attractiveness.
Trust me I've had great relationships not based on people I'd find attractive initially, but in the context of current online dating this is how it is.
posted by geoff. at 12:31 PM on March 4, 2017 [1 favorite]
That was from 7 years ago and I would say that online dating has fundamentally changed from LIST EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF to find someone you're vaguely attractive to. I think this is actually more effective as everyone juices their resume, and in the real world when you're asking someone that's random at a bar or whatever to chat up you're doing it on attractiveness.
Trust me I've had great relationships not based on people I'd find attractive initially, but in the context of current online dating this is how it is.
posted by geoff. at 12:31 PM on March 4, 2017 [1 favorite]
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OkCupid data says that you don't have to show a face, as long as you give a clear sense of your body type and your pics are interesting.
posted by veery at 7:51 AM on March 4, 2017