How do you let go of work-related bitterness after moving on?
September 4, 2014 10:16 AM Subscribe
I'm planning to change jobs soon to get away from a toxic workplace situation. I'm really bitter and angry over how things have gone down here. How do I let go of this so that it doesn't poison my next position?
I've wasted the last year of my 15-year career being assigned to a company-wide transformational project without any management support or authority. My team has developed implementation plan after implementation plan and management refuses to support any of them. Now, some very expensive external consultants have been brought in to recommend the exact same course we recommended 10 months ago, which management thinks is awesome (with no apparent recognition of the inherent irony in this). Also, they are now hiring a "business lead" - the role I thought I was in! Basically for a year I've spun my wheels and fought management and accomplished nothing.
Luckily, I am in the salary negotiation phase for a new position at another company. I am really excited about the new job and new environment, not just because I want out of my current job but also because it's a great opportunity for me. So it won't be my problem for much longer.
But I am really, really bitter about the last year. I still have no idea what it is they actually wanted me to do here, considering everything I did was either shot down or blatantly ignored. Some days I am mad at management for not supporting me, and other days I am full of self-doubt because lots of other people are succeeding on the project and I must just be too stupid to understand. How do I let these feelings go? I really don't want to mess up at my new job, I want to move on and be positive. I also don't want to bash my soon-to-be-former company all the time, it's a highly respected employer in my town.