My beloved partner has ADD and going to bed is a constant struggle for us. He frequently complains about being tired, and wishes he could go to sleep at a regular time, but says sleep is boring and instead will stay up for hours on the computer, saying he literally cannot stop reading the internet. If you have ADD, what are specific things you do in order to get yourself on the train to Sleepytown?
Some clarifications: This is not "How do I get my husband to sleep in bed with me"
-- I would prefer him to sleep in bed with me but after a long time of taking it personally, I accepted the reality that it wasn't all about me - his brain works differently from mine and if we have different bedtimes it's not a dealbreaker!
The issue is he is going to sleep very very late and then is tired all day. If he is tired then he is more prone to ADD symptoms like not being able to unplug from work (thus staying late), etc. Cue vicious cycle. (He is seeing a doctor and taking medication for ADD which seems to work for him during the day.)
Once he's in the bathroom, brushing his teeth, etc. he's golden. It's the getting-off-the-couch-and-into-bathroom part that takes hours.
Things he has tried:
- Reading a book an hour before bedtime (he ends up getting pulled into the book and will read it until it's done, which could be hours -- OR he says the book is too boring and switches back to the internet)
- Playing a board game (no specific endpoint, plus this requires my participation and sometimes I'm busy, and plus this gets boring if it's every single night)
- TV show (this has a specific endpoint but since we watch on our computer he gets pulled into surfing the internet after)
Any tips and tricks for ADD adults beyond the usual "set a regular bedtime/only use your bedroom for sleeping" advice? Interesting-but-not-too-stimulating crafts or hobbies with a specific endpoint? I'll try anything, MeFis!