So yeah. Keep going with extremely rare job in a town that doesn't support my ideal personal life, OR go with a slightly less rare (but still rare) job in the city where I know I'll get my ideal personal life? More below...
posted by glache to Work & Money (8 answers total)
Help me think through this please, I’m so conflicted or maybe I know the answer and am in denial. So I’ve applied for this job, suspect am the only applicant and therefore likely to get it, and have cold feet (to give you an idea, I applied on Tues, they called yesterday Wed to organise a phone interview for today Thurs). My pros and cons if I do get offered the job on the spot (very likely):
- Current job
A)About changing the system which I like. Windfall for me to get it 3 years out of uni. However, haven’t been able to do as much as I like because of funding (short staffing means I often get pulled out onto the floor which I don’t mind, but not to the extent it has happened). Budget is released in 2 weeks, boss is confident we’ll get it. If we do, I will have the ideal job--or so I think. I’m worried I’m in love with the idea of it.
B)Personal life is not as good as it could be with the job I’ve applied for. It’s a country town 2hrs from the state capital, which is a painful distance because it’s short enough you can do things on weekdays nights,but far enough you wouldcome back completely exhausted (and I know that from experience, it’s nearly impossible to return home before midnight).Note that mypersonal life is not non-existent--I’m a member of three meetup groups and they are all lovely, I usually go out at least once a week, but it’s not my ideal.
- Job I’ve applied for and am likely to get--is in the state capital
A)It’s a variation on what I did in my previous jobs prior to the current one, but in a different setting. It’s a rare job but more opportunities for employment in this area than my current job (there’s probably not more than 50-100 people in the country with my current kind of job, this one maybe 200). Again, just worried I’m in love with the idea of this.
B)Personal life would be ideal. I have no trouble socialising or making friends, so the difference here is not the meetup groups, but rather what other personal development things I could do. I have access to more evening sports and little courses. And the culture of course--eating good Asian food again, and maybe even just eating good ethnic food gain. Current town is good, but only Western cuisine. I’ve always enjoyed *visiting*(emphasis visiting) this city and always thought I could live here, it’s got a buzz you can’t explain, and this is even compared to other cities. However, then again, maybe I’m biased because I did come from the only other similar sized city in the country and as a resident in the suburbs you took it for grantedand didn’t really wander downtown to experience any such buzz. So pretty much I’m worried I’m in love with the idea of moving here.
So I’m just worried I’m in love with the idea of staying here for the job, but also am in love with the idea of moving to this city and finding out it’s not really that great. This job I’ve applied for, I know their actual deadline because we discussed it when scheduling my interview, and it would not wait for the budget at my current job to be released. Like I said, I’m very likely to get this job and so haveto be prepared to make a decision, *now*, either way.
Also, I should mention, this city that I’ve applied in, it’s very hard to get jobs and to my dismay, it hasn’t quite turned around yet. The excess of grads started when I finished 5 years ago, and I thought it might’ve rectified (based on the halfway point of a 10 year cycle) but it hasn’t, so this is a rare look-in (and by look-in, it’s at the very edge of the metro area). But then again this current job I’m in, like I said, is also rare. Argh. Thanks for reading.