Calling all single dads..I need your advice.
August 8, 2014 12:29 PM Subscribe
I'm crushing on a single dad, how do I go about this?
posted by hellameangirl to Human Relations (33 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
So, here's the story. He's a bar manager/bartender in a classy establishment around the corner from my office building. A couple weeks ago I was there with a coworker for happy hour and we struck up a conversation with him about the music he was playing. I was attracted and he was very friendly, but you know, thats his job. It was slow so he sort of 'hung-out' with us, conversing about a variety of topics. I told him I like the place (its a newish place) and I'd probably be back again.
Since I pass this place everyday I noticed he wasn't there for a week or so. I went in yesterday to meet a friend and I arrived first, and my crush was working. He said "oh hey!!!" when he saw me, so I know he remembered me. I said "hey, haven't seen you in here for awhile, did you go on vacation?" He says, "Not exactly..I have an 8 year old daughter and her grandma--my mom--watches her while I work. And my mom took a vacation, so I needed to be around." "So you had a staycation with your kid" I said. "Yeah" he chuckled "you could put it that way". (I didn't want to pry any further so I don't know the deal with his ex and why she isn't around. Maybe he's a widower? Maybe she just wants nothing to do with her kid? No idea.) There was more friendly banter until my friend arrived.
Anyway, I totally like this guy and have no issues with him having a child. In fact it kinda makes him more attractive. But I've never dated a single dad before, or even been around any. I imagine he is a very different type of man than I'm used to. Not only that, but I mostly do online dating where, for obvious reasons, one knows people's availability and interest. I'm not totally sure this guy is interested in me or even dating in general.
So any advice on how to attract him? I'm scared of being too bold in this situation, since its new territory.