This Victim Wants To Adopt
July 5, 2014 6:14 PM Subscribe
Do I need to disclose the fact that I was a victim of domestic violence five years ago in my home study/international adoption application? If I don't, is there any way they could find out about it?
posted by anonymous to Law & Government (22 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a single woman looking to adopt a child (internationally) and am in the early stages. I'm just getting started on the mountain of paperwork for the home study and international approval and have come across a question that I don't want to answer truthfully. Here it is:
Does Applicant have a history, either as a victim or perpetrator, of child abuse, child neglect, sexual abuse, or domestic violence whether or not it resulted in an arrest or conviction?*
Five years ago, my then boyfriend (who was a psycho) bruised up my arm and threw me into the front yard while being a psycho. I called the police and he was subsequently arrested and convicted and I haven't seen him since. No incidents since then. No other history or incidents of violence in my past (and of course, I've never been arrested for anything).
1) I'm pissed off that this incident (where I was the victim) may be coming back to haunt me and threaten my adoption approval. Am I right to think that this will look bad on my application?
2) What if I just lie on the application? Is there anything they can do to investigate me and find out that I was a victim of this case? Do such victim databases exist? If so, I'm offended.
3) Do I have a right for this not to be used against me? Can I be denied on the basis of this incident in my past?