I Feel Like I Won the House Lottery
June 27, 2014 3:32 PM Subscribe
How do I remain gracefully excited about the beautiful new home I'll be moving into? I've been gibbering insanely to anyone who asks, but I want to develop a solid library of tasteful adult answers that quietly acknowledge my good fortune but still channel my enthusiasm.
posted by brisquette to Human Relations (24 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My partner's father recently decided that he might end up retiring in the city we live in. Rather than see us pay rent to a nameless landlord, thought he'd ease our way by purchasing a house that we could live in for the time being. As the process progressed, it became more obvious that this was going to be a house for my partner and I instead.
I am absolutely ecstatic over the entire situation, but there are some weird undertones to my joy. I've never had a lot of money, and neither has my family. I always assumed my first home would be an extreme fixer, but it's not. When a friend's parents recently bought a home for her to live in, a small jealousy would periodically seethe in my stomach when I thought about her nice place. I know that it came from my own fears about never having a place to call my own. I love her, and never said anything, but it was still there.
I'm worried that people might feel like that about me (or just see how poor and insecure I am) if I keep on blabbering about how amazing and beautiful everything is. My closest friends understand, but I'm the kind of person who will chat enthusiastically to anyone and everyone about even the smallest elements of my life, and this definitely ranks. I don't want to be a big gross bragging weirdo!
In other words, I think a lot of my excitement is fueled by my deep insecurity, and I'm terrified that it will inadvertently show through and weird people out or make me look pathetic. What do non-insecure people say when they're excited about the beautiful home they just lucked into?