How can I stop looking at websites that just make me upset?
June 9, 2014 2:11 PM Subscribe
I can't stop reading PUA websites even though they make me unhappy, and I'm not sure how to deal with the effects it's having on me.
posted by aivilo91 to Human Relations (45 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
This is going to sound like a silly question, but I have a terrible habit of reading blogs about pick up artists and feeling upset about it afterwards. I found out about this way of treating women a bit less than a year ago, when my dad tried to help me be wary of PUA's by sending me a link to one of the blogs. He is not like this at all but he says that most men are. I particularly read one where it talks about how as women become older, men fall out of love with them. I am 23 and am now terrified that I will meet somebody who will then leave me for somebody younger with no wrinkles, and now anybody who is my age I will not consider dating because in the future he may leave me, so since finding out about these blogs I have been more interested in much older men. I know this is completely out of my control and I don't even know why i read these websites, but I can't stop. I told my dad recently about this and he said I'm being ridiculous and only some men are like this.
Recently I managed to go 2 weeks without reading them, but today I caved again. They make me feel very sad, because lots of men are like this. What do you recommend to deal with this, I feel like even if I don't read these blogs again, my mind has been corrupted and I can never see men or myself the same way again. I used to just be happy being myself, and now I feel like my eyes have been opened to how lots of men see women which has just completely deflated me.