I avoid people. Is this normal?
June 2, 2014 8:24 AM Subscribe
Apart from some very special people, I avoid interaction as much as I can. I don't remember ever feeling like I enjoy interacting with people just for the sake of it unless I already have an established good relationship. You are not my therapist, but what is my deal?
posted by anonymous to Society & Culture (27 answers total) 34 users marked this as a favorite
I like finding information about everything on the internet, but for this quirk or problem all I am getting are hits about depression and how people who used to like hanging out with their friends now are indifferent. That is not what is going on with me, I just don't feel much need to interact with people (and I actively avoid it). For instance, I am trying to wait out my roommates leaving the house until I go downstairs to shower/eat. There is nothing wrong with my roommates, they are pretty awesome actually. I would just strongly prefer to not interact with them.
I don't wish I knew how to talk to people. I can do small talk if I have to, but I usually don't because I don't want people to talk to me. I have had social anxiety in the past, I feel like this is different (because then I desperately wanted to talk to someone, now I don't). I feel like I know what I want, and that is to not talk to anyone besides my small circle of friends. I act friendly most of the time to others, but it is hard to sustain a conversation. Even my close friends with the exception of my partner, I am content only seeing them a few times a year, sending a few texts, and never talking on the phone.
Is there a name for this that I can google to find more information/read about others with a similar quirk? I do identify as an introvert, but it seems to me that people who say they are introverts do not usually forgo food and bathing just to avoid talking to anyone. I also have ADD. Sometimes I think about how screwed I would be in a disaster where I would have to depend on others to survive since I isolate myself intentionally. Humans are inherently social beings, it is one of our survival strategies, which is why this quirk interests me since it is counter to that.