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May 28, 2014 10:40 PM Subscribe
How does an insecure person become a good manager? Is it possible?
posted by themaskedwonder to Work & Money (15 answers total) 44 users marked this as a favorite
So, in some kind of insane stroke of luck, I got a new job and a promotion at a startup a few months ago. It's in an industry I love, with lots more pay and autonomy (though the position itself is more of a "I have experience in this area but it isn't my dream job" sort of thing. More on that later.)
I love the folks at my startup, although it's very, very grassroots at this stage still and I'm basically building a department from scratch. I recently asked for help in the form of a new employee, without realizing that, well, I'd have to manage this person.
She's been here for about a month, and I am totally SHITTING THE BED on this. I'm in my mid-twenties and have never managed another person before (I still have trouble getting to work on time without stains on my shirt). How does one...go about delegating and explaining things and challenging and motivating people? For example, I recently realized that I'd been hoarding some work unnecessarily because I didn't want to have to go through the motions of delegating and monitoring. This is bad. She mentioned to me today that she's not sure what's required of her and that she wants to feel like she's needed/helping make the company better. (All good things, yes? I feel horrible for not being able to facilitate this!)
I'm in charge of department strategy, and I feel like I'm always behind on what's new/current in our industry. I need to make time to research new ideas and always present new solutions to things to our boss. How do you all stay current and engaged? Conferences? Reading articles as soon as you get in? Keeping notes?
- I have a nagging feeling that I don't deserve this position, pay raise, title. I sometimes feel like my bosses didn't know what they were doing when they hired me, and I think the insecurity across sometimes. I feel like I'm still a baby in this knowledge area.
- Not too long ago, at my last job, I was in this girl's position and had a boss with my title. I'm extremely sensitive to the way I was treated and am consciously trying to NOT be like my former boss, who was very smart and proactive but often times anal-retentive to the point of insanity. I always have her in my head and it's probably hurting me more than helping me, honestly.
- The company is VERY small and I'm still figuring out how to get myself organized, not to mention another person. A lot of times, things get thrown at me at the last minute and I'm figuring out solutions on the fly. This can be difficult with a second person in the mix. My boss is essentially the CEO of the company, so he's typically crazy busy himself. I'm thinking of using a project management system for the two of us (like Trello) because right now I only use a notepad/pen and it's not really working anymore. (Any recommendations, by the way?)
- It's not my dream job. I'm actually trying to wedge myself into a different part of the industry, although I know that's a transition that's (probably more than a few) years away. This is what I work on at night/on weekends. That being said, this is a solid opportunity in itself, due to the people involved and the projects we work on.
I'm rambling now, but I'd really love to hear any insights on the topic. I guess my questions in summary are this: How did you improve your management skills, especially as an insecure and/or unsure person? What can I do to ensure our team is firing on all cylinders? How did you get you and your team organized and make sure you're always ahead of the curve in your industry?