I'm an upper level widgeteer and am unhappy in my job (not dissimilarly to this earlier Ask
). The misfit has been obvious (to me) from day one. But having had a series of contract and short-term roles before this I needed to get a solid period of service on my CV. It also offered security in the short-term, and a massive leap up from my former salary. I therefore planned to grit my teeth and get on with it for three years max. I've been there 2 years 7 months now and have adapted so well I feel slightly unhinged, but it's been at a massive cost to my homelife and relationships due to me being miserable as sin outside of work.
I've saved all the extra I've earned, have paid off my debt and now have a decent nest egg plus six months's emergency fund for living expenses etc. I was ready to face the final leg, counting the days til my quitting deadline (March) prepping my CV and contacting recruiters. Then, just before Christmas, my boss offered me the Manager position. It wasn't a total surprise - I've been semi-responsible for this stuff for a while now and I'd get to do more planning, strategy and resource-management (which I enjoy), but I still dislike the industry and want to be out of it asap. I asked to think about it over the holidays, I have to tell him yes or no by Friday. If I don't take it the post will be advertised externally.
The new job has much more responsibility (line management etc) but due to company restructure the extra pay is less than £2k annually. I don't mind the salary issue so much - my current position is overpaid within the market (hence being able to save so much) but taking it would mean I'd have to stay much longer than I'd planned, will no longer feel camaraderie with current same-level colleagues and the charade of 'playing nice' whilst secretly scanning for the exit will be even more intense and stressful than it is now.
So what do I do? On the one hand, it's a step up in responsibility and a chance to check out whether management is for me, or pass it up and start the search for better-fitting work sooner rather than later (I'm mid-30s at the moment)?
I really can't see the best way forward. Any thoughts fellow MeFites?