Survival tips sough: dissertation due/daily agony--how to make do?
May 26, 2014 12:26 PM Subscribe
My dissertation hand in deadline is within two months. I still have a sh*tload left to do, and I fear I'm sinking fast. I have well meaning friends and colleagues that offer support, but the stress is killing me because I can't trust my own instincts and I don't know how to ask for help.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (16 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
So the clock is ticking and I have problems facing reality: I have at least two chapters to write from scratch and at this point I'm still going through my data, and questioning whether or not I can write this. It feels awful because I not only question my qualifications to do research, I struggle with the meaning behind all of this. I do better working incrementally of course, but I fear that what I write cannot be connected to the overall structure (sorry for the vagueness because it's vague to me atm).
Here's the sticker: for several weeks, a well-meaning friend and colleague believes I'm really struggling and that I need help before I have a mental breakdown. I believe what he has to say, but it doesn't help me. Instead, I keep convincing myself I can do this, and that so much depends on it. I feel that if I were to apply for an extension, I'll never finish my work and I'll continue to be miserable for more months on end while life moves on, my parents grow old, the person who I'm supposed to grow old with doesn't meet me, etc, etc.
My primary question is: how can I filter these suggestions which aren't helping me but for which I know are well-intentioned?
Survival questions: is there something I can do to keep myself sane? I take long walks, I sleep enough, but once in a while I panic, and I'm thrown off for a couple of days and at this point I feel that I need almost every waking hour. My best friend who lives hours away has asked me how she could help me, but I really don't know how anybody can.
I'm sorry this comes across as unstructured, I'm really struggling here, though writing it down seems to make me feel that at least I'm 'doing' something or than convince myself that I'm hopelessly delusional.
Other info: I have ADHD and am in treatment, I'm living in a foreign country, and it has been 'do or die' for the past three months straight.