Is this a red flag in my 3 month old relationship?
May 22, 2014 6:22 PM Subscribe
I have been dating this girl for three months now. I think she is a sweet classy girl. The only problem I have with her is this: During past three months there were three occasions in which she wanted to go to a family event. At first she said that she was going to a family party. Then later she said that she made a mistake and that was actually a big party where half the city were invited. I texted her this morning asking her to hang out tonight and she said fine. Then this afternoon she said she rather hang out tomorrow and pack her things up for a trip she is going to go in 9 days. She just called me a few minutes ago telling me that she is invited to an event on FB which she just realized because her FB did not send her any notifications and she is thinking of going or not going. She always says she is not sure if she would go but ends up going any ways.
posted by mbn1455 to Human Relations (13 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
In the beginning she told me that her ex became very upset about her going to these parties and I told her that her ex was too possessive. Now I see I kind of started having issue with her about these too. Honestly I am not offended because of her going to these parties alone. What offends me is that I think she already had plans to go and she knew about it from the start and that is why she cancelled her plans with me for today. In the previous occasion I think she knew that she was not going to a family event too.
I do not have any problem with her going to parties with her girl friends and having fun. What bothers me is the fact that I feel she was not honest with me about it. Also I keep thinking why she does not want other people here (probably single guys) to know I am with her. We already hang out with her friends but all of them were couples.
May be I am over analysing this but I appreciate your feedback.