Help me handle a situation with my boss?
May 22, 2014 10:01 AM Subscribe
I want to communicate to my boss that not responding to an important email about my career for five weeks, nor even acknowledging that it was received is NOT. OK. What I hope to gain from this is to make it clear that I will not accept being brushed off. And to retain some modicum of self respect so that I can keep working here.
posted by kitcat to Work & Money (36 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I've been with my company for 16 months. This is the time of year promotions happen. I'm expecting to move up from a level I to a level II fairly soon. I emailed by boss asking about a promotion - when can I expect this and what can I do to help move this along? He did not respond until now, 5 weeks later. 5 weeks. And only after I sent another email yesterday. I had convinced myself he had missed the email, but in his response this morning he says he didn't miss the email, but he got sidetracked a few times, will have something to me this week, and thanks for being so patient. I am now very, very angry. Knowing him, he was hoping that he could get away with not responding at all.
I would like help drafting an email response. I am putting aside the issue of whether or not I deserve a promotion for now. I just want to make it fairly clear that I do not appreciate being ignored. I frequently get late or inadequate responses from him and I've pretty much had it.
If it seems that I am overreacting, it might help to know that I have a backstory of problems with this boss, which is amplifying my anger. I'm sure you would like the extra information, but please, I don't see much use in detailing it all here. Just give me the benefit of the doubt if you can.
This is a large-ish corporation. I am a female system analyst (programmer). Our bosses are 'managers', not tech leads.
Under this boss, I don't think my standing within the company can get any worse, so I have very little to lose. I can find another job, but I'd rather not since I am probably going to be pregnant very soon. I just want to stick this gig out and quit the minute I go on maternity leave.
I could go to HR, but I don't think HR works for the employees.
I've gone over his head with my issues with him before and I don't wish to do that again. Sure, this might play into his untimely response to me, but that's beside the point. It might explain, but does not justify his behaviour.
Thanks in advance.