April 22, 2014 1:15 PM Subscribe
Solitude, isolation, introversion...how to be happy with related life choices and what to watch out for. Advice?
posted by Caskeum to Health & Fitness (29 answers total) 47 users marked this as a favorite
At the age of 39 I realise that by all normal Western measures and standards I have "failed" at life. A year ago I was made redundant from the job I loved and that I'd put heart and soul into for 20 years. When I left there was no farewell party, parting gift or best wishes from the people I'd considered family and friends. I've tried to work out why this was and apart from the fact I didn't make much fanfare about leaving I'm at a loss. I came to the conclusion that, as an older manager of a very young team, I probably wasn't very well liked. I left the city and now work freelance in a very remote and rural area. I'm quite alone. I quite like it this way. A series of rather dysfunctional relationships over the years has convinced me I'll always be single, I'll never marry or have children. Likewise I'll never be rich or successful in anyway that will be respected or renowned. I lost the city apartment I owned and am about to declare bankruptcy so financial success is unlikely in my remaining years. I have family I am close to (despite their kid gloves and slight pity) and a few, old, distant friends I communicate with online. I now keep animals and am pretty steeped in nature in a nice part of the world. My income and work is stress free and interesting. But I feel really weird being single, poor, low-status and now having no inclination to pursue any of the things that I chased for years (friendship, money, accolades, responsibility, respect, sex etc). My question(s) is basically this...can one be ultimately happy, healthy and self-fulfilled with such a spare and socially impoverished life? Is this going to lead to psychological problems, regrets of other issues? If so what warning signs should I look out for?