Breaking up with a borderline friend
April 4, 2014 7:04 AM Subscribe
My friend has a long history of BPD. After many years we have moved in different directions and I no longer want to deal with her drama and lies. But I also don't want to make things worse for her.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (15 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
We do not live in the same city. Next time she contacts me, what should I do? We have been friends for such a long time, I don't really have the "fade out" option. But if I tell her why I don't want to be in touch any more, I'm worried she'll take it badly (self harm, damage to the progress she's made). Also I imagine she'll be angry with me but this is a lesser concern. We don't really have any friends in common any more, as others have cut her off too. I guess I'm asking, if I can't change the message, how can I at least soften it?