Wee wee pain and Doctor privacy issues (NSFW)
April 4, 2014 7:05 AM Subscribe
My penis hurts and I think I shouldn't have told my doctor about my lifestyle. I need advice on prognosis and dealing with privacy in a big HMO.
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (22 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
So my wife and I have been playing with another couple that we know for a few months. Up until a month or so ago it was just touching, kissing and some girl on girl. After having a lengthy and open talk amongst all of us about sexual history, being safe, how everyone was feeling, and what they were expecting, we decided to take things to the next level. The night ending up with both men receiving oral from the women. This was February 22.
A few days later I started feeling pain in my penis, in the urethra maybe an inch down from the tip. It was painful when I urinated. I sort of freaked out and went to my HMO doctor, and then sort of freaked out some more and told the doctor the very basics of the situation. When I said "new partner" he immediately went to prostitute and I assured him this was someone I had known for some time and they were not high risk.
The doctor performed a rectal exam and did find anything abnormal. Hr ordered a UTI screen and a chlamydia, gonorrhea and something else (syphilis?) screen. Everything was negative, and he said "well you have some sort of injury that needs to heal", and that there was "nothing to treat." He said he consulted with a specialist who agreed but that I could see him if I wanted to. By this time there was some irritation on the outside of the urethra also that was extremely sensitive.
He gave me a referral to urology and I ended up seeing the chief of the department just due to availability on 3/19. He was pretty much dismissive from the beginning of the visit and said "Your doctor told me everything, the lesson here is not to switch partners." He said it might be a yeast infection and put me on a 5 day diflucan treatment. The outside irritation cleared up but the painful urination/general all the time pain was still there, and I told him so in an email about a week later (he had asked that I follow up with him). He said that it can take a couple of weeks to get treated and we should continue for a bit. This was a week ago.
I'm struggling to not bother him again as this is affecting me very much. My wife and I's sex life which was very active even without the playtime with others has almost completely dried up as an orgasm is pretty painful for me. Even getting aroused causes pretty severe pain for a few hours afterwards. We do play to make sure she is getting satisfied but I big part of it for her is intercourse.
I think I'm starting to feels tabbing pains lower in my abdomen/testicles but can't decide if I've just had this so long didn't notice before. There was a lot of lube involved that night and I'm comfortable with a glycerin induced yeast infection scenario, but who knows.
Two main questions:
Should I just wait this out some more per the urologist's suggestions? Does diflucan treatment really take this long after you've stopped taking it?
And the bigger one that has me really worried - Is there a note now on my medical record that I am a swinger? Can that be used against me? I feel like it already has in that the doctors are pretty much dismissing my problems with a sort of you got into this mess attitude.
Is there anyway information removed from my record and/or can I request copies of correspondence? How would I do that?
I am in California and this is a big HMO if that matters.
I'm not looking for advice with respect to the playtime with the other couple. Everything is all good there emotionally and that is not the subject of this post.