How do people find money to move out when separating or divorcing?
February 11, 2014 6:44 AM Subscribe
A asks B for a divorce. B is not surprised. B agrees, even though B would prefer to stay in an unhappy marriage rather than be branded with a scarlet D*. A wants to move out ASAP. Generally speaking, how do the financial logistics of this work? No special snowflake details inside.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Asking about, but not for, a friend.
I know there are all sorts of legal steps and implications at this stage, but I am only interested in the logistics of how the A’s in this situation find the money to move out.
In this case, A and B have been married ~15 years and their incomes and assets are joined. Does A start putting aside some part of their joint income to save up for moving expense after the announcement has been made? Does B have a (practical) choice and/or say in the matter? In this example B is responsible for all the banking and bill paying, so if A had started squirreling away money beforehand B would start to notice. (I would also think that B would find this to be deceitful.)
A is looking to find an inexpensive place to live until everything is “official” but how does A take on the extra financial burden while fulfilling commitments to B, whether it is a mortgage or rent. (If it matters, A and B own a home with a market value of ~$1M but have little equity in the home and have been hit very hard by the economic climate.)
You get the idea. I’m curious about in the various ways the As of the world ever move out before houses are sold and leases expire. It's fine if there is a mandatory legal aspect to putting together the funds but I am not asking for legal advice.
Anon because some RL Mefite friends also know A and B.
*B’s words, not mine.