What to consider when considering children?
February 11, 2014 6:46 AM Subscribe
I'm 38, female, single and childless in the United States. I never thought this would happen to me but, suddenly, the idea of never having children is causing me intense grief. I can't discuss it without weeping. I'm trying to walk through all of the pros and cons of freezing eggs and waiting for a partner, adopting, or just making a decision that children are not in the cards for me, accepting the grief and moving on.
I always thought that when I got into a serious LTR then I would decide whether or not to have children with my partner, but so far that LTR has not happened. If this is going to happen, I need a plan for doing it on my own.
My parents are conservative and would probably prefer that I marry and have children the old-fashioned way, but I fully expect that they would support me and adore any child of mine regardless.
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (32 answers total) 27 users marked this as a favorite
What did you consider before making a decision on having children? What do you wish you had considered? No one ever admits to regretting having children, but is that just because it would be socially unacceptable to say so? Does the grief over not having children fade after some time?
I would especially like to hear from people who have adopted, frozen eggs, used a sperm donor, or used other "alternative" methods to have children. Your insights are very much appreciated.