Speaking voice issues - spitting and lack of volume?
February 10, 2014 1:19 PM Subscribe
I think I have developed a bad habit of spittle / spitting when talking. Its particularly bad when at restaurants or say the pub when there is a lot of noise and I feel I have to yell to be heard. I'm a late 30s male, in London and this has been happening for years. What can I do to fix this?
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Its sort of making me a rather socially awkward and I feel unable to participate in conversations in those environments for fear of spraying spittle / saliva over everyone. When I do talk I notice that people often end up wiping their faces immediately afterwards.
I once asked a girlfriend about it - but she denied it - i.e. said that I did not spit when talking. But I never really believed her.
I generally find it difficult to speak loudly without yelling, and feel like I have a sort of false/ "head voice". so believe its related to lack of speaking from the diaphragm / chest. ie that the lack of presence / proper projection is being overcome by yelling and causing the spitting. I do often feel like I have a very raspy voice in the morning after just a short meal with friends, where I wasn't even talking much. But was attempting to talk loudly.
Clearly everyone occasionally has some spitting when they talk but I feel like its every time I say anything at all. And I think the phobia is making it worse as I feel a sort of tightness and restricted chest in environments where I "might have to speak soon".
- Should I see a speech therapist? - how does one do that in the UK?
- If I can improve my vocal loudness / projection will that help? voice coach?
- Is it real, is it all in my head? My current girlfriend has never said anything about it. Why not? Its hard to bring it up with her.