I'm looking for more love songs with a specific theme - essentially, "You drive me fucking crazy and sometimes I want to throttle you and we're both kind of fucked up AND ALSO I love you more than anything and need you more than air and think you're the best person ever."
This question: Sarcastic love?
hits some of what I'm looking for, but I'd like a little more focus on the "we're in this together and will be forever, even if it leads to mutually assured destruction" part.
A few examples of songs that capture this feeling:
"No Children" by the Mountain Goats - song
(this is the best example; it will likely be our wedding song)
"Stuck With You" by Voltaire - song
"Fairytale of New York" by the Pogues - song
(although according to my personal ethics this can only be played between Thanksgiving and Christmas)
Lyrics are really the key for me (to give you an idea, I'm one of those people that signed the "John Darnielle for poet laureate" petition). I'm open to any genre of music, though my preferences generally lean towards indie, folk, punk, metal, and hardcore.