Songs for your true love/arch-nemesis.
February 7, 2014 11:52 AM   Subscribe

I'm looking for more love songs with a specific theme - essentially, "You drive me fucking crazy and sometimes I want to throttle you and we're both kind of fucked up AND ALSO I love you more than anything and need you more than air and think you're the best person ever."

This question: Sarcastic love? hits some of what I'm looking for, but I'd like a little more focus on the "we're in this together and will be forever, even if it leads to mutually assured destruction" part.

A few examples of songs that capture this feeling:
"No Children" by the Mountain Goats - song - lyrics (this is the best example; it will likely be our wedding song)
"Stuck With You" by Voltaire - song - lyrics
"Fairytale of New York" by the Pogues - song - lyrics (although according to my personal ethics this can only be played between Thanksgiving and Christmas)

Lyrics are really the key for me (to give you an idea, I'm one of those people that signed the "John Darnielle for poet laureate" petition). I'm open to any genre of music, though my preferences generally lean towards indie, folk, punk, metal, and hardcore.
posted by DulcineaX to Media & Arts (46 answers total) 25 users marked this as a favorite
I May Hate You Sometimes, the Posies
posted by Ruthless Bunny at 11:55 AM on February 7

Every song Pink ever wrote, most recently True Love?
posted by Sweetie Darling at 11:58 AM on February 7 [3 favorites]

What's that Rhianna/Eminem song that always makes me cringe?
posted by Sophie1 at 11:59 AM on February 7 [2 favorites]

Love the Way You Lie by Eminem and Rihanna.
posted by jacquilynne at 12:00 PM on February 7 [4 favorites]

Come With Me by Puff Daddy. Not joking
posted by steinsaltz at 12:02 PM on February 7 [1 favorite]

From the same album so you've almost certainly heard it, but International Small Arms Traffic Blues.
posted by naturalog at 12:06 PM on February 7 [1 favorite]

girlfriend in a coma the smiths

and maybe but possibly not laid by james
posted by St. Peepsburg at 12:07 PM on February 7 [3 favorites]

My Life Would Suck Without You, Kelly Clarkson
posted by luciernaga at 12:08 PM on February 7 [2 favorites]

and if you want to go full fucked up: delia's gone by johnny cash
posted by St. Peepsburg at 12:08 PM on February 7

I Can't Decide by the Scissor Sisters

Love Me Dead by Ludo
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 12:09 PM on February 7 [1 favorite]

Possibly Miserable by Lit?
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 12:12 PM on February 7 [3 favorites]

Corey Dargel's Other People's Love Songs album may fit the bill; this is the song I'm most familiar with.

(Though I will never find a more perfect example than "No Children," which leapt to mind immediately upon seeing your title. Glad to know you have that covered.)
posted by mlle valentine at 12:13 PM on February 7

Road Rage, by Catatonia.

Also, Tom Jones, from Space with Cerys from Catatonia - great lyrics, really funny and sounds like what you're after.
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome at 12:15 PM on February 7 [1 favorite]

I would say about a half a dozen from Sondheim have this attitude. He enjoys juggling contradictions. I'm at work so I can't link YouTubes but here are some snippets of lyrics.


You're always sorry
You're always grateful
You're always wondering what might have been
Then she walks in
And still you're sorry
And still you're grateful
And still you wonder
And still you doubt
And she goes out

Buddy's Blue.

I've got those "God-why-don't-you-love-me-oh-you-do-I'll-see-you-later" Blues,
That "Long-as-you-ignore-me-you're-the-only-thing-that-matters" Feelin,
That "If-I'm-good-enough-for-you-you're-not-good-enough" and,

Leave You (although that's pure sarcasm).

Putting thoughts of you aside
In the south of France,
Would I think of suicide?
Darling, shall we dance?
Could I live through the pain
On a terrace in Spain?
Would it pass? It would pass.
Could I bury my rage
With a boy half your age
In the grass? Bet your ass.

In fact, the entire musical Company is about the contradictions of love.
posted by dances_with_sneetches at 12:16 PM on February 7 [2 favorites]

Abuse Me - Silverchair
posted by fuse theorem at 12:17 PM on February 7

More from Company.

Being Alive

Someone to hold you too close.
Someone to hurt you too deep.
Someone to sit in you chair,
To ruin your sleep,

Someone to need you too much.
Someone to know you too well.
Someone to pull you up short,
And put you through hell,

Someone you have to let in,
Someone whose feelings you spare,
Someone who, like it or not,
Will want you to share
A little, a lot.

Someone to crowd you with love.
Someone to force you to care.
Someone to make you come through,
Who'll always be there,
As frightened as you,
Of being alive,
Being alive.


Mary Me A Little

Marry me a little
Body, heart not soul
Keep a tender distance
Always in control.
posted by dances_with_sneetches at 12:30 PM on February 7

Ana Ng by They Might Be Giants?
posted by Lemmy Caution at 12:40 PM on February 7

The cartoon Phineas and Ferb has a few great songs along this line:

When We Didn't Get Along

My Nemesis
posted by Sublimity at 12:42 PM on February 7 [1 favorite]

Shawn Mullins "Beautiful Wreck"

When my dear friend drank himself to death, this became the song that I will forever remember him by.
posted by humboldt32 at 12:54 PM on February 7

My favourite love song: Nine Inch Nails - We're In This Together
posted by corvine at 12:54 PM on February 7

Ani DiFranco, Gravel:

"you came crawling back to say
that you want to make good in the end
oh, let me count the ways that i abhor you
you were never a good lay
and you were never a good friend
but oh, what can i say, i adore you"
posted by epanalepsis at 12:56 PM on February 7 [2 favorites]

Like You Do by Neil Diamond
posted by Billiken at 1:02 PM on February 7

"Crazy Bitch", by Buckcherry
posted by alex1965 at 1:14 PM on February 7 [2 favorites]

I can't believe I forgot The Inbreds!

The songs from their album Winning Hearts all apply here, like this one
posted by St. Peepsburg at 1:18 PM on February 7

If I Didn't Love You - Squeeze
posted by JoeZydeco at 1:19 PM on February 7

Face to Face, Siouxsie and the Banshees? From the 1992 Batman Returns soundtrack, it was the Batman/Catwoman theme. Though it might be the *opposite* of what you're looking for...
posted by Andrhia at 1:33 PM on February 7

John Prine: In Spite of Ourselves
posted by Johnny Wallflower at 1:37 PM on February 7 [3 favorites]

Ani DiFranco, Untouchable Face
posted by janey47 at 1:49 PM on February 7

I hate you, then I love you - Celine Dion & Luciano Pavarotti (!)
posted by JenThePro at 1:53 PM on February 7

Dan Hill's "Sometimes When We Touch." (As much as I loath it, I can't forget it.)
posted by Carol Anne at 2:48 PM on February 7

These are kind of close to your criteria, but maybe more in a you are bad for me and I can't quit you type of way.

Long-Forgotten Fairytale by The Magnetic Fields

Like a Friend - Pulp
posted by Lapin at 2:53 PM on February 7

Breathe Around You by Tanya Donelly.
posted by crush-onastick at 3:17 PM on February 7 [1 favorite]

You Really Got a Hold on Me
posted by Asparagus at 3:42 PM on February 7

Best of this ilk are old standards (many of which have contemporary versions out). E.g. Billie Holiday made an entire career of singing such songs. Links are to lyric pages:

Nevertheless (I'm In Love With You)

I've got you under my skin

Good Morning Heartache

I get along without you very well

etc. etc...
posted by Quisp Lover at 4:38 PM on February 7

I immediately thought of "My Love Is You" by David Byrne:

"Sometimes dear
You tell me I'm an asshole
Sometimes you're an asshole too
Even though we're filled with
I don't think any less of you"
posted by aecorwin at 5:44 PM on February 7

This may be a bit more anodyne than the above-mentioned songs, but John Legend's "Take It Slow"?

Girl, I'm in love with you
This ain't the honeymoon
Passed the infatuation phase
Right in the thick of love
At times we get sick of love
Seems like we argue everyday

I know I misbehaved and you made your mistakes
And we both still got room left to grow
And though love sometimes hurts
I still put you first
And we'll make this thing work but I think maybe we should take it slow
posted by simulacra at 6:14 PM on February 7

You might like Your Love Is (Love Song with Metaphor) by Paul & Storm
posted by blurker at 8:49 PM on February 7

All I Want by Joni Mitchell (link includes lyrics)
posted by granted at 9:33 PM on February 7

Smoothie King by Bowling for Soup
posted by Night_owl at 9:55 PM on February 7

U Stink But I ♥ U by Billy and the Boingers
posted by Shmuel510 at 12:40 AM on February 8 [3 favorites]

Sick of Myself by Matthew Sweet?
posted by jabes at 9:35 AM on February 8

I Hate Myself For Loving You - Joan Jett
Jesse - Carly Simon
Mamma Mia - Abba
posted by SisterHavana at 10:43 PM on February 8

Another one from Space: Bastard Me, Bastard You, from their Avenging Angels single release.
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome at 7:35 AM on February 20

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