Who do you recommend I hire to help me achieve my goals?
January 25, 2014 4:10 PM Subscribe
I have been seeing a Psychoanalytic Therapist for the last year. I have made great strides working with her and I deeply appreciate her support. Nevertheless, I feel like our main goal has been to understand my past and present
. At this point in my life, I want to work with someone who can help me achieve "specific desired behavioral outcomes"
posted by speedoavenger to Health & Fitness (8 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I was surfing the web earlier today and I came across a website named Noomi. It contains a directory of life coaches, relationship coaches, spiritual coaches, and a bunch of other kinds of coaches. I knew nothing about personal coaches but after reading more about them they sound like a viable alternative to therapy.
Should I work with a CBT Therapist, a Coach of some kind, or some other type of professional I haven't even thought of yet to help me achieve my goals? Some of you may be thinking why would I want to hire someone. I will give you a few reasons-
1. I feel like a good coach/therapist would be able to help me accomplish my goals faster.
2. I have been trying to accomplish some of the goals on my list for years and I have not made much headway.
3. I battle with non-committal and under-responsible adaptive behaviors.
4. I have never before written down goals and systematically worked towards completing them. Most of the time I keep my goals up in my head and just wing it.
Here is my question one more time: Who do you recommend I hire to help me achieve my goals?
I have a secondary question as well (if that's allowed): Do my goals appear balanced to you? Are there any goals not on my list that you think should be on my list based on the few things that you know about me?
I have included my goals in the Extended Explanation section as they seemed relevant to my question. :-) I appreciate you sharing your thoughts with me. It means a lot.
-I want to cook healthy meals on a regular basis.
-I want to be organized and stop letting so many areas of my life pile up with clutter, including but not limited to – laundry, dishes, emails, voice mails, paperwork, and text messages.
-I want to exercise on a regular basis.
-I want to create a balanced budget and live within my means. Most of my discretionary income goes towards eating out at restaurants and paying for dates.
-I want to pay off my credit card debt
-I want to start saving money that I can put towards a down payment on a house.
-I want to build solid friendships with a couple guys that are fun, emotionally mature, and dependable.
-I want to speak more from the heart and not the mind. In other words, I want to be able to recognize and say what I feel and not say what I think other people want to hear.
-I want to find a committed girlfriend with the same primary love languages: "Physical Affection" and "Spending Quality Time Together".
-I want to build a very high level of self-worth & self-esteem.
-I want to stop esteeming myself based on what other people think of me, aka "People Pleasing".
-I want to feel content with myself whether or not I am in a relationship.
-I want to become an expert at recognizing my distorted thoughts and replacing them with more realistic thoughts, aka “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy”. The ultimate goal of course would be to have less distorted (negative) thoughts and more realistic (positive thoughts)
-I want to feel spiritually whole, centered and connected. I am open to achieving this goal by attending church or not attending church. I am open to different religions/faiths.