How should I act around my girlfriend's coworker?
December 14, 2013 6:13 AM Subscribe
How should I handle social situations with my girlfriend's creepy coworker?
posted by deathpanels to Society & Culture (21 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
A couple weeks ago I finally met my girlfriend's coworkers at a group gathering at a local bar. Everyone was a little bit tipsy, but this one guy was incredibly intoxicated, black-out drunk, and exhibited some behavior that really bothered me, including at one point acting in a somewhat creepy manner toward my girlfriend and making vaguely aggressive comments toward me. (Not threatening, exactly, but muttering things like, "I don't like you" under his breath.) Normally I don't care if people do or say embarrassing things while drunk, but this really bothered me, mostly because of the weird aggression. Although supposedly this was a one-time occurrence and he has reportedly expressed embarrassment to those present at this event over the way he behaved, I would prefer to never see this person again for the rest of my life.
Now I've been invited to another gathering, this time at another coworker's apartment, and I know he will be there. Should I attend and give him a chance to explain himself, or am I right to dismiss this guy is an absolute creep and just avoid him altogether? I would otherwise like to go, but I'm afraid he'll either get drunk and go into creep mode again, or it will be so awkward that it will ruin the night. If I don't go, my girlfriend will be upset and will know it's because of this guy. She seems convinced this was a freak occurrence and won't happen again. She is normally a good judge of character, but I'm skeptical. If I do go, what's the best way to handle this?
Note: this person is in his mid-30s and married.