I need some direction toward living a life with more depth and less breadth, less quantity and more quality. Any tips, recommendations or resources you know of would be most appreciated.
Up until recently I've always been the type of person who bit off more than they could chew, had a thousand interests and multiple projects going at one time that never got finished. The problem was that I was also a very easily overwhelmed person (I think this stems from anxiety issues and perfectionist tendencies) and it was all making me very unhappy.
I believe now that the answer to my woes is to try to live a calmer, simpler, more prioritized life. To this end I've been reading a lot about things like voluntary simplicity and minimalism. The book The Joy of Less
has been invaluable for me in terms of understanding the benefit of and creating a plan to reduce my physical possessions but I feel like I could still use some more guidance regarding the less tangible aspects of life. I still feel like I have a hard time knowing when to let the to-do list go and relax and enjoy/live life. I also have a hard time sorting out my priorities and often feel bombarded by "shoulds" from all sides.
A lot of the stuff I've read on simple living either takes a new age-y approach to it or focuses on getting back to the land stuff and I'm sorry but taking time to meditate, do yoga and keep a gratitude journal isn't going to simplify life for me right now, nor is raising my own chickens and vegetables. Though I may consider doing one or more of those things in the future, right now I'd rather focus on eliminating. An example of the kind of tips I'm looking for: I recently cut down the number of people I'm actively trying to maintain friendships with to ten.
Two major areas I struggle with are finding a simple way to get the exercise I need and feeding myself healthfully. The variables in those two areas are so overwhelming to me! But I could use help in simplifying nearly all aspects of life: relationships, holidays, self care, housekeeping, hobbies, entertainment, internet usage (ahem), etc. Also, if it matters, I am a married female with no kids but several pets living in smallish apartment in a very large city and both my spouse and I work 40 hr/week more or less.