Maintaining healthy friendships while struggling with a mental illness.
October 16, 2013 5:19 PM Subscribe
Trying to figure out how to manage both a mental illness and a set friendships at the same time - balance between opening the can of worms that thoughts of a depressed mind can be and closing in, keeping things to myself appears to be incedibly hard to strike, and being unable to figure it out for 4 years now has been costing me plenty of sleepless nights and otherwise good friendships along the way. All input appreciated; more backstory inside.
posted by 9080 to human relations (6 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I've been feeling very content with my current, small circle of friends, but things have started slip trough the cracks again, and once again, it makes me bring up the ages-old question: "How exactly do you manage both an illness of this kind and a friendship, let alone a relationship?" - i.e. what are the main pitfalls I should look out for in order to not sabotage my chances of social success?
I do find myself in a Catch-22 situation here: therapy is not available here, so I am on meds - they are not enough to completely overcome this set if health issues, so I end up looking for support in people around me: eventually me not making much progress all-around breaks down their tolerance to such darkness and friendship silently dies at some point. Trying to talk it out directly by voicing concerns has so far been a fruitless effort, for it acts as the killing blow to the friendship. How to break the loop?
Background: I am 20 years old male, residing in a small town in Latvia, Europe. Diagnosed with anxiety and depression 4 years ago; been on med treatment ever since. Changing residence is currently not an option, although I plan to entroll a university abroad next year.