I need someone to make sure I do my chores...
May 14, 2012 4:25 PM Subscribe
How can I find help keeping up with life? I need an option between permanent supportive housing
and crap, I haven't taken out the trash or paid a bill in three months
posted by Fee Phi Faux Phumb I Smell t'Socks o' a Puppetman! to law & government (13 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
I have (several) severe mental illnesses that substantially impair my ability to cope with the demands of daily life. The day may come when I can trust myself to pay the bills, take out the trash, move the trash from my desk to the trashcan, vacuum, make phone calls that are necessary, get my medications refilled when they should be, etc. That day is not this day, and I seriously have no clue when that day will come.
I rely heavily on self-reporting to my therapy/psychiatric team (in hopes of getting better meds and/or brief social pressure to take care of a particular thing,) and on begging for help from a specific family member. There are several problems with this: I have to realize things are bad, I have to speak up for myself, nothing is fixed until things are Really Bad, I am usually limited to small amounts of progress in one narrow sphere of life, material support is heavily dependent on a particular person's skills/energy level/willingness to help, etc. Plus my specific family member will be moving far away relatively soon, and then there won't be anyone to come and sit in my living room and make sure I put things in garbage bags and open my mail and stuff (that's what I did with my Saturday, BTW: catch up on six months of mail and trash.)
What I'd really like is a social worker who'd stop by, I don't know, every two weeks or something, to make sure I'm not letting the house fall to pieces, etc. I'd even be willing to give them a power of attorney to be able to check and make sure I'm paying my bills.
Things have been bad enough in the past that it's honestly surprising I haven't been homeless and/or subject to a court order for either mental health or financial reasons. But at the moment, I am gainfully employed and have private insurance. My family is not reliable, and I have few friends due largely to extreme social phobia.
I honestly can't think of the name for the kind of service I need - it's like, right now (and for the most part over the last few years) I don't need daily direct supervision; I don't need to be in the hospital and I don't need someone to make sure I take showers. But I need more than visits to therapists and doctors.
(In case I haven't already made this clear: I see a therapist weekly and a psychiatrist biweekly, and this is a persistent issue, not something I'm freaking out about due to a single recent depressive episode.)