[NewDadFilter:] I'm a shy person and a new dad. Is there anything I can do to keep from transmitting that trait to my kiddo?
I've had a lot of trouble with shyness, and I'd prefer for my son not to have the same trouble. I remember my parents and other relatives commenting on my shyness, so, of course, I never do that. I'm actually quite capable of interacting with others in certain contexts (teaching, playing music live). But other really simple interactions are often very difficult for me (e.g. interacting with waiters, for some reason, induces a lot of anxiety). But, in most social situations involving new people, I tend to be quiet at first, and only gradually warm up and engage others in conversation. I'm quite talkative among people I know well.
I found a lot of good advice in this thread
about strategies an adult might take to deal with the issue, and that's helpful, but I'm coming at this from a different angle (I think).
My son turned one year old in January. He seems to have some of my same temperament. In social situations, he tends to survey the scene before jumping in. He doesn't strike me as overly shy, I just want to do what I can to make sure that he doesn't become that way.