Am I crazy or is he?
October 11, 2013 12:44 PM Subscribe
My husband's behavior towards my children worries me by episodes (frightening nastiness superseded within minutes by normal, loving, even patient fatherly behavior). I think I've gotten used to a little too much. The kids love him and vie for his attention, but one day after I'd shouted at him to cut it out during one of his displays one of them said to me "can you please keep him away from me when he's like that?". She's 5.
I think that if I told him that I want a divorce he would be genuinely hurt, astounded, incredulous, etc., and would probably suggest all sorts of ways I could amend my own behavior to correct the situation. He did that last time I told him I'd had it, and a hurt, puzzled "are you MAD at me?" is something I hear every time I show a shortening of patience around him.
What's driving me crazy is that he says, and believes it himself, that he is in love with me, that we're happily married, and the kids are great. I want to raise my kids in some kind of peace; is there any hope?
posted by esmew to human relations (51 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite