How do you end a friendship when you're eleven?
October 9, 2013 10:47 PM Subscribe
I'm all about the slow fade for friendships that aren't working, but I'm 34 and my daughter is 11. It doesn't work that way in middle school.
posted by Ruki to human relations (18 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
My daughter has been friends with this girl since she was in 3rd grade (she's now in 6th, and the other girl is in 7th), but the other girl's behavior has escalated from annoying (IMO) to abusive (in not just my opinion.)
My daughter, B, wants to end her friendship with her former BFF, M. It's come to light recently that M has been treating B in a way that is straight up bullying. M yells at B for such "transgressions" as talking to other people, not spending her money on M at the mall, and needing to get off the phone because B needed to find her inhaler. B is a very responsible latch key kid who is home alone for two hours after school. M knows this, and will call, per our phone records, every three minutes until B picks up the phone. We have already changed B's cell phone number and will change our home phone this week - M has been told by my husband, myself, and B that she cannot call so often, but it continues. Her mother is not at all helpful in controlling M. This girl has made her mother bring her to B's softball games and a yard sale at my mother's house to check up on B's whereabouts (she calls B a liar when B has other plans that don't involve M.)
I have let their school know about the situation, and B and I have talked at length about how to deal with situation, but M will not let go. This is affecting B's school performance because she is so anxious about it, and I don't know what else to do. Talking to M hasn't worked, talking to M's mother hasn't worked, what do we do now?