Need sex advice: Possible to learn to enjoy dominance/submission?
September 14, 2013 3:47 PM Subscribe
New to MeFi, so sorry if this is an odd post...
I just started dating a guy - let's call him Michael - who has noted several times that he likes to be a little aggressive in the sack (and although we have not yet had sex, this became clear when we made out/fooled around recently... he was pretty man-handly/dominating, did a little dirty talking, etc.). I have next to no experience in even very mild dominance/submission stuff and honestly have never had any interest in it. I can be a good sport and do a little dirty-talking if it's going to make someone's day, but it has always felt too contrived for me to enjoy it for my own sake. And I've never tried anything beyond that. That said, I really like Michael, am very sexually attracted to him, would hate to end things with him prematurely because of an unexplored difference in our sexual styles, and, frankly, couldn't help but feel a little lame/boring/conservative if I put an end to it for that reason. So, my question: as someone who isn't naturally inclined to be interested in dominance/submission, is there a chance I could learn to like it, or is it pretty much something you like or don't?
posted by anonymous to human relations (29 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
And how would I go about getting my feet wet without doing anything that's going to take me out of my comfort zone (and please keep in mind that I am still getting to know Michael, so I'm going to need to take it slowly)? And what can I say/do to let Michael know that I don't usually do this stuff but am open to trying it out and seeing if I might actually like it (though there's a chance that I won't)? Any how-to's/advice would be much appreciated. Thanks!