Marriage & Work Filter, opposing schedules edition
August 31, 2013 2:01 PM Subscribe
What non-obvious effects can I expect if I take a job with hours that are very different from my wife's?
posted by jon1270 to human relations (21 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
After years of being a marginally self-employed fine craftsman / househusband, I am seriously considering a particular part-time job. This is a job for which I am well-qualified and well-suited, and it's clear that the potential employer likes me a lot. The job would helpfully supplement our income, and also impose some structure on my otherwise problematically free-form days.
I am hesitating, however, because it's evening and weekend work, whereas my wife works a traditional 9-5, M-F schedule. For most of the year (it's an academic job) we would go from our accustomed five evenings and two full days a week together, to one evening and one weekend day. This is such a drastic change, and I am so entrenched in our current routines, that I am not sure I can properly imagine what this would be like. Have you and a partner ever (or do you now) live(d) like this? FWIW, we neither have or anticipate having kids.
Our evening meal routines would have to change. We'd each be dining alone most nights. I'm not sure how to handle that without resorting to boxed mac and cheese. Perhaps our crock pot would have to swing into regular service?
How might we stay connected socially with so much less time together? I don't want my marriage to feel like a LDR while living in the same house.
What else, good or bad, am I not thinking of?