How can I make my mother see she needs to see a psychologist?
August 31, 2013 6:22 AM Subscribe
I don't live at home anymore, as I studied abroad, but frequently come home during holidays.
During such return visit, and the ocassional visit by my family, I always get a good taste of my mother's uglier side.
I dont want to diagnose her myself, but can say that her bipolar and control freakish behaviour is affecting the whole family (my father and brother) for as long as I can remember. I would dare to even describe it as abusive; minor problems like a dirty plate forgotten on a kitchen counter can escalate into agressive full blown shout out, and in general there were moments where I really had to remind myself that, whoa, this is my mother.
My father and brother are the ones having to live with this now (I dont plan on returning to my hometown for a while, and even then plan to find my own place), but are usually maintaining the status quo of some days ok, some days terrible. It makes for a really bad family relationship as its a significant strain, and my father agrees she should see a mental health professional. I tried to bring it up several times to her, but usually gets brushed off aggressively; she believes that we are the problem and that "she's not crazy".
I myself had experiences with psychologists, so I tried to describe from personal experience, but it doesnt quite work, and I was wondering what could be a good way to go at least for a consultation? She's a career woman, successful in her job, a workaholic and seems to have an almost masochistic desire to stress herself out, and mentioning psychologists to her is almost always like a blow to her ego; she believes she's amazing, great, a martyr for her family and perfectly healthy.