How can I make my mother see she needs to see a psychologist?
August 31, 2013 6:22 AM Subscribe
I don't live at home anymore, as I studied abroad, but frequently come home during holidays.
During such return visit, and the ocassional visit by my family, I always get a good taste of my mother's uglier side.
I dont want to diagnose her myself, but can say that her bipolar and control freakish behaviour is affecting the whole family (my father and brother) for as long as I can remember. I would dare to even describe it as abusive; minor problems like a dirty plate forgotten on a kitchen counter can escalate into agressive full blown shout out, and in general there were moments where I really had to remind myself that, whoa, this is my mother.
posted by ahtlast93 to health & fitness (13 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My father and brother are the ones having to live with this now (I dont plan on returning to my hometown for a while, and even then plan to find my own place), but are usually maintaining the status quo of some days ok, some days terrible. It makes for a really bad family relationship as its a significant strain, and my father agrees she should see a mental health professional. I tried to bring it up several times to her, but usually gets brushed off aggressively; she believes that we are the problem and that "she's not crazy".
I myself had experiences with psychologists, so I tried to describe from personal experience, but it doesnt quite work, and I was wondering what could be a good way to go at least for a consultation? She's a career woman, successful in her job, a workaholic and seems to have an almost masochistic desire to stress herself out, and mentioning psychologists to her is almost always like a blow to her ego; she believes she's amazing, great, a martyr for her family and perfectly healthy.